By Ilyse Levine-Kanji
April is autism awareness month. Awareness is great. But what really frustrates me and other parents of children with autism isn’t a lack of awareness but rather how little is actually known about the disorder.
For instance, there is no explanation about why the number of autistic children is exploding. Less than a month ago, the Centers for Disease Control released updated data about the public health epidemic of autism. The CDC found that for children born in 2002, the prevalence of autism is 1 in 68, and 1 in 42 boys. This new prevalence finding is roughly 30% higher than just six years ago and roughly 120% higher than the CDC’s findings in 2002 (1 in 150).
I’m incredulous that people still argue that the increase in the prevalence of autism is only due to better diagnosis. Do we really believe that doctors and teachers 20 years ago simply didn’t notice the devastating symptoms presented by children affected by autism?
Equally frustrating is the lack of knowledge about the capabilities and inner lives of people with autism. When my son Sam was diagnosed at 26 months in 2000, we were told that a primary hallmark of autism is social disinterest and the desire to be alone. Now that Sam is 15, we realize that couldn’t be further from the truth.
Within the first minute of meeting Sam, you know that he is different. He likes to walk up to people he doesn’t know and rapidly blurt out: “What-is-your-name-and-when-is-your-birthday?” He can say this in an unexpectedly loud voice, with his eyes averted and his back or side facing the person he’s addressing, and maybe standing too close to — or too far away from — his intended “conversation partner.” Once the person answers, Sam often simply moves away, without acknowledging the response or following up in any way, leaving the person confused about the unusual interaction.
While Sam’s social interactions are often quirky and unexpected, Sam has a deep desire to connect with others. He is always willing to go to the grocery store or run errands with me, primarily because he’s excited to see who we will run into. People joke that Sam acts like “the mayor,” greeting everyone he sees by name and with an extremely enthusiastic fist bump. (Again, we were told that people with autism have trouble recognizing others, which also hasn’t been true for Sam.)
What is accurate is that Sam has tremendous difficulty communicating. He speaks in full sentences, but it is often a struggle for him to communicate his thoughts. One way that Sam compensates for this difficulty is that he painstakingly plans out what he is going to say to someone before he sees him or her.
Sam has many rehearsed scripts in his head that he pulls out depending on the person. Continue reading